A red flag is a good intuitive image to help you process what you’re really feeling. At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, “He (or she) told me who he (or she) was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.”
1. Difficult to apologize
The inability to say “i’m sorry” to a partner is not a good sign that such a relationship is meant to linger or lead into anything meaningful. If your partner refuses to apologize when he or she has done something wrong, this is a red flag for a perception of inequality in the relationship. Feeling too big to apologize reduces the relationship from being mutual to a servant-master relationship.
2. Absence of Trust
While it is sometimes “okay” to be jealous about someone, excessive jealousy could lead to mistrust which can make one act very unreasonably and mean. In the absence of trust, a relationship is not necessary because the mistrust will always be the foundation for judging the other partner.
3. Absence of Respect
If a person cannot respect you while you’re dating, how much more when you finally get locked down together in a marital affair that is presumed to be eternal? Being disrespected in a relationship reduces one to being a beggar (always pleading for respect and attention), and such a relationship will have no reason to last, for if one’s self esteem is trampled upon, the relationship is valueless.
4. They lie, especially too much
While it is possible to be guilty of lying, at one point or the other in one’s life, it is very unreasonable to be in a relationship with one who lies about almost every thing, especially little things. Such a person will make you act on their lies and in the long run, make a fool of yourself. They could even make you look down on someone you’re meant to respect or pay more attention to. Trust me, you’ll run mad!
5. They are selfish
A selfish person will not help you to think about yourself in a positive way. It’s a relationship, not a pity-party of some sort. Partners who tend to think only about themselves will in the long run make you feel lonely even when they are right before you. Everyone needs to feel good about themselves before engaging another person in a relationship.
6. Your partner is quick to become angry, yell or throw things.
Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s the frequency and severity of your partner’s reactions that should act as a guide for your concerns. Expressing anger, even by yelling, can release tension, frustration and pain—if done in a safe manner; but it should not be used as a method of control in any situation. Using anger to instill fear in another is unacceptable behavior in any relationship.
7.Avoids answering “big-picture” questions
Relationship red flags portray a clear picture of a wrong guy as the one who gets irritated when you ask questions relating to future prospects of your ongoing relationship. He will show certain signs of red flags dating by being unable to discuss about marriage and other commitments. Either by simply changing the topic, being unsure or asking for extra time, her will avoid answering your necessary intuitions. This clearly shows that your guy is definitely not a relationship-keeper.
8. Abusive behavior.
Any form of abuse, from the seemingly mild to the overtly obvious—verbal, emotional, psychological, and certainly physical—is not just a red flag but a huge banner telling you to get out immediately and never look back.
10. Your partner makes you cry almost always
Just as the popular saying, “if you cry more than you smile in a relationship, you should take time to ask yourself if you are dating an onions”.
One of the most critical relationship red flags which you should not overlook is when your partner makes you cry more than you laugh.
Of course, you have not committed to an onion! If s/he is a totally heartbreaker, bade him a good bye!
11. One who never disagrees with you
As odd as this might sound, it is unusual for one not to have a stance in any case or situation. If your partner ALWAYS agrees with whatever you have to say or do, it’s obvious they are not into you and have something they look forward to getting from you before they take a long walk away from your life. For that reason, they’ll agree with all your trash and attitude until they accomplish their mission, which was the first reason they decided to meet with you. Anyone who’s in love will want to express their opinion to their partner. The ones with ulterior motives will not stress themselves in any argument with you.
12. They vehemently disagree with your choice of religion
Except of course your relationship doesn’t mean much to you, a partner who wouldn’t want to hear of your chosen religion will make religious life miserable for you. It’s best to disengage from that person before the obviously imminent frustration hits you.
What’s your reaction to this and what other red flag do you think should be on the list?