Sunday, October 2, 2022


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30 is a beautiful age. It’s an age where you have gone through a lot of things and are just set to utilize your past experiences for the best and the rest of your life. However, there are many things to know and avoid at that age. It’s definitely not an age to fool or play around with life. Happy reading!


30 is a beautiful age. It’s an age where you have gone through a lot of things and are just set to utilize your past experiences for the best and the rest of your life. However, there are many things to know and avoid at that age. It’s definitely not an age to fool or play around with life. Happy reading!

1. Negative people

Maybe all through your twenties, you are used to living your life in an attempt to please the whole   world, you want to appear to the whole world as a good person. Here’s what you need to know, YOU CAN’T PLEASE THE WHOLE WORLD! It is important at this point to avoid and dispose, as much as possible, people with negative vibes. When you are sure that they aren’t gonna help you become a better person, please DISPOSE!

2. Wasteful spending

For both men and women, it is necessary to spend wisely. There are things that are regarded as “wants” while other are regarded as “needs”. It is imperative to dwell and focus on needs than wants. 

3. Impressing people

Sometimes, people spend the most of their resources trying to impress people who do not care about them. Most importantly, most of the people you try to impress, especially in dressing and in purchasing resources, are also very busy trying to make good use of their own resources. Do not waste your own resources impressing people. Live your life, just be alive, live well!

4. Know what you want in life

If you have wandered all through your twenties a nonentity, 30 is not an age to approach with uncertainty. In your life, know exactly what you want. Maybe you have been trying lots of things, maybe you have lived life with trials and errors, well, this is a good time to choose one thing and focus on it.

5. Know what you want in every relationship

There are lots of young people who are in different relationships and cannot specifically define such relationships well enough to tell what such relationships are bringing to them. It is worthless to fill up your life with many relationships and not know what exactly you are doing them. Define every relationship, know exactly what it is meant to bring to you, Don’t date somebody to pass time or just for the fun or idea of being in a relationship. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. Do not be caught up in that web of asking somebody “what exactly are we?” Hello??? before a relationship starts, define it! Let it be headed somewhere. If it’s business, define it. If it’s erotic, define it. if it’s emotional/marital, make sure it is defined.

6. Have more than one source of income 

Maybe you have had a white-collar job all your life. It’s time to get better. You know. life doesn’t just get better, life gets tougher but the tough gets going. It is very important to have an additional source of income before or at 30. Life’s gotta step up

7. Master your emotions

Have you ever had the disgusting experience of watching an adult “mis-express” feelings in the most appalling way? it’s outrightly undescribable. you don’t wanna throw yourself around everyone in an attempt to make them understand how you feel. Master your emotions. Avoid emotional outbursts in public.

8. Save, save and save more money

So many young people have found this one of the most difficult things to do. it is very important to save. Imagine those things you bought when you least needed them; all of that money can sum up to something big to help out in the day of need.

9. Find that “friend” that’s for you

It’s funny about friendship. When you’re younger everyone is your friend. As you get older, however, you realize you only really need a handful of friends. And, that most important friend is your bestie. You know. The person who knows everything about you and is still friends with you. Find a quality friend whom you enjoy and remember that friendships require effort. Put the time in so you have this important stabilizer in your life.

10. Do something you enjoy

Life is not all about making money. There are things you should want to do, not for money but for charity and for fun. Touch a life. Go out of your way to make someone happy. Just do something that brings you pleasure. Something fulfilling. It could seem way too small to you but it could make someone’s day.

11. Don’t be afraid of failure

There’s no better way to learn, grow and drive yourself to succeed in the future than to fail. Fail fast and ensure that you do not leave yourself in the mess of your failure. Fail and fall as many times as possible, but when you get up, learn something. Also know that it is much easier to fail before 30 than after.

12. Travel by yourself

This may sound frightening. But traveling by yourself will push you to get out of your shell, help you discover who you really are and have experiences that you probably wouldn’t have had if you traveled with someone else. It will also give you valuable thinking time.

13. Live a debt-free life

No matter how pressing the need is, it is necessary to know that life is possible and better without debts. You don’t wanna be subjected to lots of embarrassments at 30 all in connection to the debts you owe years before. 

14. Wherever you go, leave a good impression

it doesn’t matter if the person who first sees you is not the person you expect to see. Make a good impression wherever you go.

15. It’s your life, do whatever you want with it

There are step by step ways to accomplish any goal. If it has been accomplished by someone else, all you have to do is choose your virtual mentor and follow in his or her footsteps. If you are doing something that has not been done before, it is more challenging but your path can be mapped out if you take note of the things that have worked for you and those that have not. Do the things that work and pitch the ones that don’t.

16. If you want to be successful, you should hang out with successful people.

Your own thoughts, ideas and considerations about things shape your future. We live our ideas. For example, if you have an idea that it is noble to be poor, you will live your life in such a way as to remain poor. If this idea is sunk into your subconscious, you don’t even know you are acting it out in life. A good exercise, when things are not going well in life, is to sit down and write out all of your thoughts and considerations about the thing you are having trouble with. Get rid of the ones that hold you back.

17. You are responsible for every action you take in life and every condition your life is in.

This sounds harsh and I had a hard time with that until I asked myself, “Who is the most motivated person to see that my life works out the way I want it to?” The answer is ME. So the next question is, “Who is really going to take responsibility to ensure that my life works out the way I want it to?” Again, there is only one answer. Yes, your mom and your wife and everyone who cares about you want your life to work out but you are responsible for everything that happens to you, even if the decisions were not taken by you, the fact that you made them happen to you makes you responsible.

18. School doesn’t work for everyone.

Especially in this day and age. School gives you information. You shouldn’t assume that the only way to success is to be schooled. There are many people who have made it in life without being schooled in anything at all.

19. Don’t be stereotype in thinking

Do not be so rigid in your thinking that you fail to admit other ways of doing things in life. There are many ways through which things can be done. When and where necessary, let go of your own ways and thoughts and be open to learning new things and ideas. Permit your mind to go wild as much as possible. It’s free, not to be paid for. Do not starve your mind!

20. Truth and integrity are your most valuable assets

You see what you see and deep down, you know the truth about things. Don’t divert from your course because someone else doesn’t like it. Don’t agree with someone just to keep the peace. Any peace you can get on this planet is bought through strength and integrity. It is maintained through the idea that you do not stand for lies and bad ethics. Integrity and truth are the seat of your power. If you let these things go, you have nothing.

21. Vengeance is futile. Drop that attempt!

Revenge for the sake of revenge never feels good when it is carried out and, believe it or not, it ties you to the person that you have taken revenge against. You will never be free of that person in your thoughts and mind thereafter. Sometimes you do have to act against a person to stop the damage they are wreaking on others. This is a correct action in the grand scheme of things. But revenge just for revenge’s sake is evil. I don’t care how many movies make it seem okay.

22. You matter more to your kids than to anyone else

If you lose a friend or a lover, you can find another one even if you are devastated. Your child can never find another mom or dad. They adore you from the moment they are born and look up to you. Do not take this lightly. Care for them and do not take unnecessary risks with your life. They cannot replace  you.


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1. A man without a source of income

 Whether or not a woman is after your money, no woman will like to be hooked up with a man who can barely provide for himself, talk more of providing for himself and a woman. No matter how rich a woman is, she would prefer a man who can buy all the necessary things he needs over a man who can barely fend for himself. Note that, a relationship is not necessarily about money, but most importantly, it is erroneous and irritating for a man to want a woman if he can barely take care of himself. You should be forced to ask, what does he want to do with her if he cannot even provide for himself? Gone are those days when it was opined that love is not all about money. It is not all about money because it is about money and other things. Before contracting any lady into a meaningful relationship, a man should have a source of income.

2. A man who has an attitude problem

When a woman accepts to date a man, it can be said that such a woman is not signing a contract with trouble. A man is designed to be the head of a family, to be the leader in the family. No woman wants to date a man who has an attitude problem. A man who is either too bossy or too petty. There are lots of issues that should worry a woman and a man should not let his become a worry to a woman. No woman wants headache in the name of a relationship.

3. A man who is bossy

Nature has made it just obvious and acceptable that a man is the head of the family. However, a man does not need to prove it or else it becomes worrisome and irritating. Many relationships have hit the rock because men choose to argue their places in the affairs rather than just be and act the way they are designed to act. A reasonable woman understands that a man should be loved and respected but love and respect should not be demanded; it is earned. Asking for it and insisting on these make a man bossy and i am yet to meet a woman who wants to be ordered around by one bossy man. They are probably not born yet; they may come in the next century.

4. A man who feels inferior
Every family or relationship grows around the personality of the head of the family. Since men are created to be leaders, it will be disastrous for the leader of any relationship to always feel inferior. This inferiority rubs off on every other person who is “led” by such a man. A man should have the boldness and courage to lead his relationship well. His ego should not be bruised to a point where he feels less than a man. Every woman wants a man who does not just dress in manly clothes but is proud of who he is and has a good amount of confidence in himself.

5. A dirty man
One very common excuse for dirtiness among men is that men were created from dust (directly) while women were created from the man (an already made product). For this “reason”, many people opine that women are neater and cleaner than men. (you are entitled to your opinion too). Well, there is no reason why a man should be dirty, whether he was created from dust or gutter. A man should be presentable before any woman would want to take a shot at him. He should have clean breath, beautiful look and clean clothes as well. It is appalling to find out that the breath from some men can kill insects. Sometimes you begin to wonder if they ate dead rats. Dear male creature of God, please, be clean. Women love men who are spotlessly, or at least, considerably clean.

6. A man without focus
No matter how much money a man has and no matter how good-looking he may be, in no time, he will be worthless if he does not have a goal or a focus. A responsible man should have a goal, a plan, something he is working towards or something he is planning. A man who fails to plan has planned to fail already. It is not possible for a responsible lady to want to have anything to do with a focus-less man.

7. A man who has no respect for women
There are still so many men who believe that a woman is a second-class citizen of any environment where there are men. well, every woman deserves respect. A man who cannot respect a woman is not fit to marry a woman. Women love men who respect and appreciate womanhood, not a man who assumes that a woman is a property to be purchased anywhere, by any means.



The go-getter is that one person who is hell-bent on making it. In such a period of economic recession and retrogression, an unfocused person can only just get by with life but for success to be achieved, go-getters are needed.Their tenacity and perseverance in the face of crisis is one force that will keep them fixed on their goal and eventually help them attain success.

In this time of search for money, what one requires to really make money is not just hardwork but creativity. Hardwork is good but it is not just enough. In times when it seems like money is not easy to come by, the peak of creativity is required for anyone to succeed beyond their peers.

While people are gathering to organize a pity-party about how bad life is, and how it is difficult to sail through the storms of life, one man, an opportunist, decides to create a “common interest”, a means of making money from them all. An opportunist is the person who will be observant enough to see an opportunity in the midst of challenges.

Nothing as strong as a positive  conviction in the midst of controversies. An optimist is that person who believes that no matter how many times failure occurs, there is a chance and likelihood of success. An optimist is that person who believes in success and prefers to see success in the face of adversity. Such people can survive any kind of storm that comes their way.

This person is disciplined in all that he does and will not let a little misbehavior ruin his success or the chances thereof. A disciplinarian makes plans and keeps to those plans. He does not let circumstances dictate his plans and discipline. He is decisive and he fore-plans his activities before executing them.

The popular saying that “he who fails to plan has planned to fail” best explains this. A planner is that person who does not just fall into activities but plans activities. A planner will not let just anyone decide what he does. He wakes up with a reason to be alive, a plan for himself. A planner ends his day even before he starts his day.

This is a season where jobs are not very easy to come by, and as a result, the employed few are even afraid of losing their jobs. Well, in times like this, it is as gainful as it is safe to be skilled manually. People who know how to make money with their hands will have lesser challenges in periods like these. Rather than  seeking employment anywhere, their hands fetch them money..


While social media is the rave of the moment, especially among youths all over the world, it is expedient to note that there are things that should not be displayed on social media, no matter the pressure. Some of these are discussed hereunder:

Business ideas
An idea should not be a subject for global discussion. Once a business idea is conceived, it shouldn’t be shared to the whole world, instead, it should be treated as a business idea; given the due consideration and attention it requires to birth success. Sharing business ideas on social media is one way to give out free money-making ideas to an innumerable audience.

Your full biography
It feels good to talk about oneself, but for security reasons, it is safer to limit the amount of vital information that one puts on social media. Many fake accounts are created and recreated with people’s real pictures and their biography. This is because their information is already provided for on their social media account(s) and for this reason, scammers and fraudsters can easily take their pictures and with that, recreate fake accounts in their name.
Your  relationship issues
Though it may feel like people care, really, almost everyone on social media either wants to make money or just get entertained and your serious relationship issue may be a form of entertainment to such people. No matter how many comments that may attract, a large number of them are not really bothered about that trouble of yours. It’s your relationship, not for anyone else. It’s safer and better to keep such issues to yourself. Don’t go all out feeling like the celebrant of a pity-party.
Irrelevant information
It is not uncommon to find people posting stuff about themselves, including updates like, “just got out of the bathroom”, “my sleeping face”, etc, No matter how interesting this is to you, it doesn’t increase the cost of food in the market. Please keep it to yourself.
Nude Pictures 
Every right-thinking and psychologically-satisfied person loves his or her body, but no matter how obsessed you are with you body, please protect your body. It will be wrong to litter social media with what’s meant to be private, this makes you a public property, and you know what? Nobody really cares about public property, we all like private things.
Drugs and alcohol
Pictures of people drinking hard and taking selfies of themselves in their foolery are not hard to come by nowadays. Worse still, we see people drinking alcohol and when they are tired of drinking, they pour it either on the floor or their hands. Funny as this ugly trend is, it is confirmed that this neither makes a person better nor make a nation better.
Family issues
It is not in contention that Social Media is not the best place for family meetings or throwing tantrums. It is advisable to keep personal and other family issues within the family. Sharing them on Social Media is not a guarantee that solution is gonna come. Your family issue, no matter how serious, should be dealt with within the family, not on Social Media. Your village head doesn’t own a room there!

Share with us, what are those things you feel shouldn’t be shared on social media?


A talent is a blessing and a gift from God but then, not all talents make it through the windows of admiration from the ends of the world. Most of the people who have multiple talents do not necessarily succeed as those who have few of the talents they possess. Here are some of the reasons why it is that way:

Multi-talent is confusing

Having too many talents and not knowing how to use them is like having too many wrist watches; they all will not be accurate enough to inform you on what time it is you wanna know. Most of the people who are multi-talented are almost always confused as to what exactly they are supposed to be doing in life. Most of them are unsure what exactly is going to bring them to limelight and they tend to fiddle with one talent per time.

Multi-talent doesn’t guarantee success

Having so many talents does not necessarily guarantee that one will be successful in life. Most of the times, the “excess” talents constitute distractions to the people who seem to have them. This is because they tend to feed and explore all  of their talents at once thereby leading themselves to be less than professionals in all that they possess as talents.

Division of direction and focus

Many of the people who are seemingly multi-talented tend to be confused as to which of their talents they specifically need to focus on. Therefore, most of them live their lives wandering and hovering on each talent per time, thereby wasting the time that could be spent on developing and being the best on one out of all the talents. They further find it difficult to focus solely and strongly on one thing and this doesn’t help them in their pursuit of a career and allied matters.

They are known for many things but barely the best at one

Because multi-talented people are good at many things and can hardly focus on one thing well, they are known for everything and can be rated above average in all their areas of talent but can hardly be reckoned with as the best in one thing. This makes them qualify to be called the jack of all trades.

Multi-talented people are almost always busy doing too many things
Most of the times, multi-talented people tend to find themselves helping a lot of people with one challenge or the other.  This is because they easily come to mind when one thinks of an accessible unaccomplished talent and multi-talented people on the other hand find fulfillment in helping others than they do in themselves. So they find themselves busy helping the world but themselves and since they find fulfillment in helping others, they don’t mind saying farewell to one talent after using it in helping people.

 They easily lose interest, even in themselves

Because of the abundance of talents and the unfulfilled quest for success, multi-talented people will switch from one of their talents to another, easily while those who have few talents will stick to their talents and make the best of it. This makes the multi-talented people easily frustrated and increase the tendency of them losing interest in everything, including themselves while sliding in and out of depression at times.

They easily follow trends and do not dictate trends

Multi-talented people tend to get inspired by trends in order to realize and uncover most of the things they can do but were unaware of. For this reason, they tend to find out some of their talents when they see others do same and they are hardly the first to do anything good.They blend with the trend and they are always in a hurry to try out things that have been done by others. This puts them in a good condition to be seen as number two.

However, there are few multi-talented people in life who have become very successful and have been known all around the world. In order to succeed, a multi-talented person should know and do these:

* Focus on strengths – feed your focus and starve your distraction!
* Know that which gives you joy
* Do one thing at at ime
*Give your best in all that you do
*Embrace the spirit of perseverance
*Know that one talent that you enjoy better than the other ones.


I personally think that this question can only be seen from different perspectives. Is it really right for a guy to spend endlessly on a girl simply because they are in a relationship that MAY or will HOPEFULLY lead to marriage? Lets consider these from a Yes/No perspective

Well, Yes, a guy should pay a girl’s bills for the following reasons and in the following circumstances

A man who wants to get married should have enough money to cater for “his woman”

Inasmuch as the relationship is not about money, a man who intends to get married to the woman he is dating should have what it takes to at least fend for few of a woman’s needs. The man should know that marriage comes with responsibilities and if he cannot care for a single woman, how much more a woman and children, plus all those expenses that come with marriage and fatherhood. Spending on her is an indication that you have no intentions of stressing out the woman who’s gonna bear your children and your name. It shouldn’t just be about professing “dry love” for her. Chairman, do something!

A man will only spend money on something that matters to him

No matter how broke the man may be, if he loves a woman, he will find a way to spend, out of his “poverty”, on her. This is because your heart lies where your treasure is. Most of the financially poor couples who live happily together are able to find happiness with themselves because they understand each other very well, more so, they know that their partners would do more for them if they have the wherewithal. If a man CANNOT spend on a woman, it could be an indication that he cares less about her; no matter how it is seen or perceived.

It goes a long way to prove the man’s sense of responsibility

This is Africa and we all know and agree that the man is the head of the family. If in a relationship, a man cannot pull his fiancee out of financial stress (where necessary), how much more in marriage? So being a man or a husband is not just about bearing a male name, it also involves having a “manly” pocket too. lol. Spending much on a woman you are dating especially when she needs it, providing for her needs – especially pressing needs- is an indication that the man is a “husband material – 12 yards, veritable real wax”. lol!

On the other hand, here are reasons i feel a man is not obligated to spend money on his girlfriend/fiance

A woman should have a life of her own

A woman should have a complete life, such that with or without a man, she can survive. Dating a man should not be a life time opportunity or an avenue for anyone to make money, except if you are doing business together. Therefore, being a woman is not just about being born a female gender; it requires the productive use of two hands and ten fingers, and even a functional brain to produce money for yourself. If the man wants to spend on the woman, fine, that’s his business, but it should’t be a do or die affair because the body or relationship is neither for sale or at the instance of money. 

It’s an emotional relationship, not a job opportunity

Being in a relationship where marriage may be intended is not meant to just be a financial relationship. Every woman wants to be treated well with different gifts and all that, but most importantly, the value of a gift should not be measured by its market worth but should be commensurate with the worth of the relationship. So, dating a man does not automatically means that he has inherited and bought all your financial hardships. It’s a relationship, not a job opportunity or business gateway. The notion of finding a man to handover the baton of your hardship to is not one that is fanciful. Use your hands: even physically disabled people make money nowadays.
A man shouldn’t be the only one to provide money
Although most of the financial responsibilities of any union rests on the man, but that is not an outright sanction or verdict that indicates that the woman should do absolutely nothing. A woman should also be a source of joy to her husband and to her family as a whole. If a woman cannot fend or provide her basic needs before marriage, how much more difficult will it be when she gets married? Moreover, if she can hardly sustain herself as a single lady, her potential husband should just get set to fix his hands in a cuff of unending needs that cannot be easily provided.
So, having said these, i gotta know your opinions. Do you think it is right, moral, necessary and/or obligatory for a man to provide all or most of a woman’s needs simply because they are in a relationship? Let’s hear you please.


Holding on to an abusive relationship

It is quite understandable that no one is perfect, yes, no one is meant to be, but no woman should sit and manage a man who does not appreciate her, especially if he derives pleasure in abusing her. It is pointless sticking to a man who wants to take your life away simply because you think you love him. Well, it should be known to you that love is worth receiving, just as it is worth giving. As for sticking to a man who abuses you in the case of marriage, you are entitled to your own opinion but it is better to live long in isolation than to die defending a man who cares less about your life. Dying for love has gone out of fashion; nowadays, we live for love!

Spending your money on a man

Spending your money, either hard-earned or soft-earned, on a man will definitely be a reverse of the order of   God’s plan. A man is meant to be the one who basically caters for the family. A woman is expected to be a help, meet (fit, proper, prom, adequate, sufficient) for a man. In other words, a woman is meant to assist a man. Assistance is not sponsorship; it means that the man is doing something and you are supporting him. Spending money on a man, for whatever reasons will affect the relationship and kill the man’s ego. However, a woman is meant to support a man if things get sour, but that’s not her responsibility and it shouldn’t be tagged so.

Even if he cheats, he will come back to me

Dear sister, i can read God’s mind right now. Jesus did not die on the cross for you to behave like this. No! He’d be pretty disappointed if he sees you acting like this. you see, no matter what you choose to endure or tolerate from a man, do not sit down there and pat his cheating ass. Every woman deserves a man who will  be just for her alone. No cheating. Treat yourself well, you deserve better.

I will fight for my man

So you have been crowned as the Lioness of your generation and this is what you choose to do with your power and prowess abi? This is somewhat complicated and it is totally dependent on what kinda fight is involved. Most importantly, a man who you have to fight to get is not yours. You are entitled to your opinion though. If in case you “win” such a fight, well, be ready to do more of those fights like for the rest of your life because that fight opens doors to more fights. So quit fighting for and over a man; instead, spend time to invest in yourself. You are also worth fighting for, abi?

Finding a man will bring an end to my problems
Every stage in life comes with its own challenges. No matter what you go through in life, if you cannot fend for yourself and take good care of yourself, how much more difficult will it be for you if your challenges are added up with that of another person? it won’t be any easy. So, finding a man will not bring an end to any of your challenges, you should be a complete person; one who knows how to take care of herself and as well, one who finds satisfaction and contentment in oneself.

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