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I personally think that this question can only be seen from different perspectives. Is it really right for a guy to spend endlessly on a girl simply because they are in a relationship that MAY or will HOPEFULLY lead to marriage? Lets consider these from a Yes/No perspective

Well, Yes, a guy should pay a girl’s bills for the following reasons and in the following circumstances

A man who wants to get married should have enough money to cater for “his woman”

Inasmuch as the relationship is not about money, a man who intends to get married to the woman he is dating should have what it takes to at least fend for few of a woman’s needs. The man should know that marriage comes with responsibilities and if he cannot care for a single woman, how much more a woman and children, plus all those expenses that come with marriage and fatherhood. Spending on her is an indication that you have no intentions of stressing out the woman who’s gonna bear your children and your name. It shouldn’t just be about professing “dry love” for her. Chairman, do something!

A man will only spend money on something that matters to him

No matter how broke the man may be, if he loves a woman, he will find a way to spend, out of his “poverty”, on her. This is because your heart lies where your treasure is. Most of the financially poor couples who live happily together are able to find happiness with themselves because they understand each other very well, more so, they know that their partners would do more for them if they have the wherewithal. If a man CANNOT spend on a woman, it could be an indication that he cares less about her; no matter how it is seen or perceived.

It goes a long way to prove the man’s sense of responsibility

This is Africa and we all know and agree that the man is the head of the family. If in a relationship, a man cannot pull his fiancee out of financial stress (where necessary), how much more in marriage? So being a man or a husband is not just about bearing a male name, it also involves having a “manly” pocket too. lol. Spending much on a woman you are dating especially when she needs it, providing for her needs – especially pressing needs- is an indication that the man is a “husband material – 12 yards, veritable real wax”. lol!

On the other hand, here are reasons i feel a man is not obligated to spend money on his girlfriend/fiance

A woman should have a life of her own

A woman should have a complete life, such that with or without a man, she can survive. Dating a man should not be a life time opportunity or an avenue for anyone to make money, except if you are doing business together. Therefore, being a woman is not just about being born a female gender; it requires the productive use of two hands and ten fingers, and even a functional brain to produce money for yourself. If the man wants to spend on the woman, fine, that’s his business, but it should’t be a do or die affair because the body or relationship is neither for sale or at the instance of money. 

It’s an emotional relationship, not a job opportunity

Being in a relationship where marriage may be intended is not meant to just be a financial relationship. Every woman wants to be treated well with different gifts and all that, but most importantly, the value of a gift should not be measured by its market worth but should be commensurate with the worth of the relationship. So, dating a man does not automatically means that he has inherited and bought all your financial hardships. It’s a relationship, not a job opportunity or business gateway. The notion of finding a man to handover the baton of your hardship to is not one that is fanciful. Use your hands: even physically disabled people make money nowadays.
A man shouldn’t be the only one to provide money
Although most of the financial responsibilities of any union rests on the man, but that is not an outright sanction or verdict that indicates that the woman should do absolutely nothing. A woman should also be a source of joy to her husband and to her family as a whole. If a woman cannot fend or provide her basic needs before marriage, how much more difficult will it be when she gets married? Moreover, if she can hardly sustain herself as a single lady, her potential husband should just get set to fix his hands in a cuff of unending needs that cannot be easily provided.
So, having said these, i gotta know your opinions. Do you think it is right, moral, necessary and/or obligatory for a man to provide all or most of a woman’s needs simply because they are in a relationship? Let’s hear you please.


Holding on to an abusive relationship

It is quite understandable that no one is perfect, yes, no one is meant to be, but no woman should sit and manage a man who does not appreciate her, especially if he derives pleasure in abusing her. It is pointless sticking to a man who wants to take your life away simply because you think you love him. Well, it should be known to you that love is worth receiving, just as it is worth giving. As for sticking to a man who abuses you in the case of marriage, you are entitled to your own opinion but it is better to live long in isolation than to die defending a man who cares less about your life. Dying for love has gone out of fashion; nowadays, we live for love!

Spending your money on a man

Spending your money, either hard-earned or soft-earned, on a man will definitely be a reverse of the order of   God’s plan. A man is meant to be the one who basically caters for the family. A woman is expected to be a help, meet (fit, proper, prom, adequate, sufficient) for a man. In other words, a woman is meant to assist a man. Assistance is not sponsorship; it means that the man is doing something and you are supporting him. Spending money on a man, for whatever reasons will affect the relationship and kill the man’s ego. However, a woman is meant to support a man if things get sour, but that’s not her responsibility and it shouldn’t be tagged so.

Even if he cheats, he will come back to me

Dear sister, i can read God’s mind right now. Jesus did not die on the cross for you to behave like this. No! He’d be pretty disappointed if he sees you acting like this. you see, no matter what you choose to endure or tolerate from a man, do not sit down there and pat his cheating ass. Every woman deserves a man who will  be just for her alone. No cheating. Treat yourself well, you deserve better.

I will fight for my man

So you have been crowned as the Lioness of your generation and this is what you choose to do with your power and prowess abi? This is somewhat complicated and it is totally dependent on what kinda fight is involved. Most importantly, a man who you have to fight to get is not yours. You are entitled to your opinion though. If in case you “win” such a fight, well, be ready to do more of those fights like for the rest of your life because that fight opens doors to more fights. So quit fighting for and over a man; instead, spend time to invest in yourself. You are also worth fighting for, abi?

Finding a man will bring an end to my problems
Every stage in life comes with its own challenges. No matter what you go through in life, if you cannot fend for yourself and take good care of yourself, how much more difficult will it be for you if your challenges are added up with that of another person? it won’t be any easy. So, finding a man will not bring an end to any of your challenges, you should be a complete person; one who knows how to take care of herself and as well, one who finds satisfaction and contentment in oneself.


Time waits for no one
No matter how young you feel today, looking back to the days when you were a baby, it’s still gonna feel like just yesterday. Therefore, time waits for no one and respects no one. If you have anything to do today, please do it while there is time because you owe yourself the very responsibility of doing things at the fastest possible pace. Very soon, you are gonna look back and realise that you have come very far from childhood and that is not a time to regret the things that you didn’t do. Take chances today. do the right things
There is no perfect time for anything
We are always waiting for a good time, a perfect time, a great time. Well, you have so much time today. Today you have the chance to say and do all that you have the strength and time to do. It is pointless waiting for a time to do something good. Bear this in mind, there is no perfect time for anything but what you do with your time is what makes any time perfect.
Aging comes without negotiation
No matter the fitness, the health therapies, the diets and all we choose and try to do, aging comes with time. Time comes when we realize that we have stopped growing and started aging. No matter how long it takes, it will definitely come. Before you start aging, just be sure that you have grown well and learnt enough.
Change is constant
With or without our efforts, there are changes that will occur in our lives and we will not be able to do anything about them. Change is constant and man is dynamic. We have the right, opportunity and enablement to adjust to the change that occurs around us, either positively or negatively. Have a positive attitude to change. Do not live in a stereotype mindset. If negative change occurs, work towards converting it for your good. Change with the trend. Fashion and other things are definitely gonna be transient. Do not be stereotype.
Karma is real
This is one law that has served people with all that they have sown aforetimes. It doesn’t matter the situation you find yourself in per time, it is expedient to acknowledge the fact that Karma is real. You reap all that you sow and even if you meet with people who are helpless or worse than helpless, do not take advantage of their situations because you just may find yourself in their shoes at a latter time, and woe betide you if you also find yourself in their hands.
Not all friends are forever
There are people we meet in life and just imagine the rest of our lives with them. We imagine all the beautiful things that we can do with them around us for as long as possible. Well, life disappoints us. Most of these people do not last for ever. Most of the times, they are not just friends but lovers or even confidants. When the time comes to let them go, it may be difficult but learn to let go, no matter the situation that occasions their exit from our lives.
Some good bonds are beneficial
While lots of people are busy building relationships, whether or not they are instantly beneficial to them, there are people who care less about how they relate with people and they end up offending the people they will eventually need in the future. It is important to create good bonds with whoever you meet in life, irrespective of the time, place and circumstances of the meeting.  
Beauty fades
The beauty referred to here is not the one that “lies in the eyes of the beholder” but the one we see and we refer to as beauty because it pleases the eyes. Analyze the beauty queens you have access to, from the time of their emergence as queens to fifty or fourty years after. No matter how much they try, the skin changes, faces change and everything else, including their voices (in most cases) do change. So do not live in the illusion that beauty is gonna stand as an asset someday. It fades, just like clothes.
You have what it takes to overcome hurt
There is no situation in life that is bigger than the one who faces it. Life is meant to be a journey and no matter how many times you dash your feet against a stone, you have just what it takes to continue in your journey. Perseverance is required for everyone in this journey of life. No matter the hurt, you can overcome it.
No one lives for ever
This is an undisputable fact about life. No matter how long you live, you cannot live forever so make your life worthwhile when you breath because one day, time will say “hello” to your breath.


Bishop David Oyedepo of the Living Faith Church worldwide, has appealed to those criticizing the school fees charged by Covenant University to desist from doing so or risk incurring the wrath of God. Speaking in a telecast to a pre-Shiloh 2016 Convention gathering of the church monitored via satellite in Jos on Saturday, November 5, the cleric said the critics were acting in ignorance, NAN reports.
Bishop Oyedepo said critics of the high fees charged by Covenant University risk incurring the wrath of God
– He advised the critics stop, saying they were acting out of ignorance 

– The cleric noted that the school fees paid by students of the university was a godly agenda


There were days when prophets were revered much more than they are right now in this dispensation. Prophets in the Bible days were seen and regarded as heaven’s mouthpiece and their messages were undoubtable. However, this age and time is littered with so many prophets who have left many unanswered questions in the mouths and hearts of desperate miracle-seeking Christians. Let’s consider these disparities between the Prophets of old and the prophets we have now:
Do we still need prophets to tell us the sources of our problems?
Rather than these prophets tell us who is behind our troubles, isn’t it just better that they just eliminate the problems? Most of these prophets have caused not a little stir in families by apportioning blames on innocent family members who would stop at nothing in proving their innocence, which eventually leads to an endless string of rancor and bickering in the families. Remember that the bible states that “we wrestle NOT AGAINST FLESH AND BLOOD…”
Do we need analysis or solution?
These endtime prophets come around and analyse the situations that people find themselves in. They even go as far as describing clothes, offices, etc, especially when they are not connected to the victim’s solution. In the Bible days, Jesus did not go about with drama, he healed some people without even asking them questions about themselves or their families. :HE WENT ABOUT DOING GOOD!
Must every prophet collect money? 
There are lots of stories in the Bible about how Jesus fed lots of people and how most of these miracles were duplicated by the apostles of old without the apostles demanding for money in exchange. Nowadays, to have access to a prophet, one would need to pay lots of fees, sow seeds, and do so many things just to impress the prophet. How much do we pay to see God? we merely go on our knees, or even lie in prayers to God and we have access to him. this act of extorting money from people is really wrong and a lot should be done about it. Prophets ought to stop collecting money from people in order to prophesy to them. Jesus raised Lazarus from death. He merely spoke to the corpse and that did it!
Should prophets reveal any information at all to the public?
Rather than bring out a church member before a congregation and explain all her problems to the congregation, isn’t is just better that the prophet delivers solution to such a person in need of solution? if these Prophets are following Jesus, they will realise that Jesus never had the time to describe or magnify people’s problems, either in public or in secret. All he always did was to speak the word!
Prophets now compete with native doctors/herbalists
it is not uncommon to see prophets requesting for unimaginable things for a so called programme/revival. In a so called church programme, you see prophet asking you to come with cutlass, mirror, etc. Brother biko, the battle is not a physical one o.  it was recorded severally in the Bible that Jesus seeing the multitude had compassion on them. He didn’t just ask them to go and bring cutlass or physical weapons. if a prophet has been endued with power enough to see beyond the physical, then he needs not request for your physical weapons in physical war.
Prophets should decrease in number and not increase in Nigeria
Despite the many prophets in Nigeria, the Chibok girls were missing for a very long time and while prophets were prophesying about people’s clothes and destinies, a nation was looking for over 200 people. Money has gotten missing in this same country, yet EFCC has always been called upon to trace such funds. if a prophet can see well enough to know who is behind a person’s failure, such a prophet should be able to prophesy to a nation. God told Jeremiah in Jeremiah 1; … i have formed you and ordained you a prophet to the NATION. If things are still getting missing in a country where there are countless prophets, i think such prophets need to get other jobs to do. Am i alone in this?




The Pessimist

Life is already filled with people who will attempt to bring one down when one attempts to go up. it will be erroneous for one to intentionally associate with an additional pessimist as “friend”. A pessimist will help you find faults in everything you do and assist in discouraging you from doing both the right and the wrong things. A pessimist will make you get comfortable in one spot and give you reasons why it is risky as well as disastrous not to step out of your comfort zone.
The non-supportive friend
Friends who are not supportive will eventually come back to you when you make it, but they should be relegated to the “fan zone”. If the one you call your friend cannot support you in your pursuits at all, then who else will? In one’s pursuit of success or anything good at all, one deserves at least someone who will go the extra length to do anything to make his/her friend happy, fulfilled and successful.
The sycophant
This is the kind of friend that will call you in the middle of the night and request for help after keeping mute after months or years. Such people keep coming into your lives and they will only remember you when they need you. worse still, not only will they remember you when they need you, they will not remember to call you in case there is something that can be beneficial to you. Well, life is too short to tolerate this shit! Drop them all and move on!
The unrepentant friend
No one on earth is perfect; well no one is expected to be  but every person should be able to accept their weaknesses and aim at being better than their past. There is always this friend who is unrepentant about his/her flaws, no matter how detrimental it may be to them. Well, if they care less about themselves, how about you? More so, if everyone knows about his/her character, it will be assumed that you posses same or you tolerate same. Drop them!

The Careless Spender

We all require a lot of discipline in the way and manner we spend money and therefore living with or making friends with a careless spender is one sure way to spend recklessly. It is imperative to save for a rainy day. therefore, efforts should be made consciously towards spending for the right reasons because a careless spender will make you spend on them, if you won’t do so for yourself.


It’s hard not to notice the bond that binds this couple as they will stop at nothing to give us marriage goals hourly. Singer, Timi Dakolo and  his beautiful wife, Busola Dakolo look so good together and will always show it to the world how beautiful love can be. 
Looking at their endless show of love and affection for one another, Nigerians will be like, kukuma kill us. Well, for some good reason, single people have hope, at least this is to prove that a beautiful marriage is possible and obtainable.This further gives us a break from the endless messy divorce stories that fills the air nowadays. Let’s have a peep into their world please

Timi, wife and children

timi, wife and children

Here’s wishing you guys more love, joy and happiness. And for those aspiring couples, pls run to Timi & wife for prayer. I’m on my way! lolx. xoxo

Flora and Solomon Lange dedicate daughter (Sheena) in Church (photos).


Joy could be seen all over their faces as Flora and Solomon Lange dedicated their baby. Recall that the couple tied the nuptial knots in May, 2015. They therefore brought their baby before the Lord for dedication on the 30th day of October, 2016.

Happy and proud father, Solomon Lange shared the invitation together with pictures of his wife and baby via his social media saying:

“My wife Flora and I want to specially invite all you to the dedication and thanksgiving of our daughter Sheena. It’s happening this Sunday 30th of October by 10am at Graceville Christian Center, 6a Lasale street Maitatama, it’s close to MTN’s office. It will be an awesome concert graced by my friends in the industry. There will be music and comedy. You don’t want to miss it. Looking forward to seeing you on Sunday.”

The baby dedication was filled with joyous moments as great music ministers were there to celebrate with the first-time parents: see photos below:


We wish the family the very best of life!


As the impact of gospel music continues to heighten in Nigeria, the ministers have also grown in their different respects. Here are five male gospel music ministers that Nigeria should look out for. These guys are blazing hot. (In no particular order).



Caleb David

 Young and spirit-filled worshipper was in Abuja about seven days ago and it was such a great time in God’s presence. He has been singing before his teen ages and still does, with great passion too. Caleb, based in Kaduna, Nigeria is a song writer, a keyboardist and a worshipper too. One of his songs, Be it unto me has been reconciling men with God amongst other of his songs. His passion and love for music makes him a voice that one always wants to hear. Caleb is also set to minister at the Manifestation of the Sons of God, slated for the 12th 13th November, 2016 at The Lord’s Table Church, Barnawa, Kaduna, Kaduna State. Follow him on Facebook ; Caleb David Click here to download his song, be it unto me:

Moses Bliss
One of the youngest creatures to be doing music well in this dispensation is Moss Bliss. He is the president of The Engraced Music  (TEM) Crew, a group that is well known for  her “wowing” and heart touching ministrations. Moses Bliss, based in Abuja, Nigeria,  stole the hearts of people  around the world when he blessed us with his song “God is real” after which he has never ceased to do well. He is well travelled and has been to a few countries in Africa. He qualified as a member of the Gratitude and is a minstrel at the  prestigious Commonwelath of Zion Assembly (COZA), Abuja. He has also ministered alongside great men like Tye Tribett, Tim Godfrey, to mention but a few. He played and sang a song “makes sense” on valentines day at a conference, which song, though not available online at the moment, caused fans to look at him with antifipation Follow him on Facebook – Moses Bliss and download his most recent song, you are awesome by clicking on this link:


With a unique voice and charisma, the Abuja based Kogi-born gospel music minister stands out as one young and energetic minster to reckon with. Jayclef, who knows the way to God’s throne through worship  is one who will link you to God via worship and help you stay there. The cool-spirited gospel act is not just a singer but he is a music coach and his song “I am spreading” has been enjoying endless downloads ever since it’s production and online release. Jayclef fans enjoy an unlimited measure of originality whenever they listen to him and this is also traceable to his song I am Spreading. Jayclef has been singing for over a decade and his finesse in all he does is something that cannot be hidden whenever he ministers. Follow Jayclef on Facebook – Jay Clef and also download his song via this link:

Mac Franck

A worship leader with a difference, a man who carries the presence of God wherever he goes is the personality you find in Mac Franck. Ghanaian born and Nigerian bred and Niger-State based singer is the president of The Appointed Worshippers and has succeeded in taking worship beyond songs and words. With a few awards to his credit, Mac Franck has travelled through many West African Countries and is also the president of School of Mentorship with the proof of impact visible around him. He has ministered on same stage with wonderful people like Chris Morgan, Effizzy, to mention but a few. Mac Frank has been doing music for over a decade and has further succeeded in raising music ministers who enjoy same grace of healing and favour that can be found around him. Follow him on Facebook, Mac Franck and on Instagram-Macfranck.

Fredrock Samuels
Fredrock is a man who houses a voice of gold. He has ministered in tenacity and has been very good at what he does. The Kabiyoosi crooner also has a large number of awards to his credit and never ceases to go with God, wherever he minsters, to bless his audience. The Cross-Rivers-State born minister is based in Abuja and has ministered with great men, amongst which is Solomon Lange, to mention but a few. His song, Kabiyoosi gets people dancing wherever it is heard and he is one minister to look out for in Nigeria as long as gospel music in concerned. Follow Fredrock on Facebook – Fredrock Samuels, and on Instagram: Fredrock download Kabiyoosi by Fredrock. Click on this link:


The assumption of every new leadership is always characterized with innovations that such leadership brings to its subjects and subordinates. In the new leadership of National Open University of Nigeria led by Professor Abdallah Ubah Adamu upon the exit of Professor Vincent Ado Tenebe, one would need to take a deep analysis to ascertain whether or not there are positive changes in the present leadership as NOUN Students are found seeming to return to the previous government. A few of the struggles that NOUN students are going through are summarized below:

Remitta Challenge

Just while NOUN students were getting used to generating remitta codes in order to pay necessary fees, right now, the portals have been closed and students who have money to pay into their portals (even though not for this current semester), cannot do so.

Printing of Exam Registration Slips and Identity Cards

For students to gain entrance into examination halls, they would need to present their examination registration slips and identity cards. However, right now, the portals are closed and students cannot access their examination registration slips anymore. Students have been faced with so many “options” which are not even easily verifiable due to the endless posts seen online.

Call for students’ presence in school centres

As if the above are not enough stress to NOUN students, they have been advised to visit their study centres before the commencement of examinations in order to enlist themselves for examinations and are expected to come with documents such as evidences of payments, passport photographs etc, in place of the exam registration slips and identity cards which some of them already have printed.

Inability to submit Tutor Marked Assignments (TMA)
After students have finished reading well enough to submit their TMAs, they woke up to the news that the site is unavailable and they therefore cannot submit their TMAs which constitute 30% of their total marks per semester. Though there have been unconfirmed reports that those who were unable to submit their TMAs will be scored 100% in their examinations, but, NOUN students deserve better. After paying so much money in the name of school fees and etc, they should be properly informed.

NOUN Media

Apart from the use of study centres and sometimes, the NOUN website, students are unsure where to go to or who to ask if and when things go wrong. The school website should be a hub for information. It should serve the needs of the students at all times. Students should not be made to “travel” to their study centres from their work places just to get information about their school and goings on thereat. 

Students are unaware of what is really wrong

Students are exasperated with this twist of events and the many rumors that fill the air of NOUN. This is therefore a clarion call to the management and the leadership of the school to lead the students well and to inform them well too. it is therefore not right for students to just wake up and realize that their sites are unaccessible and they all have to “scout” for information.

Is NOUN still an open and distant learning institution or it is gradually transforming itself into a conventional university?

The Motto of NOUN is “Work and Learn” and this guides students to believe that the system provides convenience for people to work and learn. The call for students to visit their study centres in order to verify their payments and registrations for examinations, which defect is no fault of theirs, makes one to wanna ask if NOUN is supposed to be a conventional university, considering the fact that the majority of the students are working class people who should not stake their jobs just because the school authority demands to see them for dutifully complying with the norms of the institution.

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