30 is a beautiful age. It’s an age where you have gone through a lot of things and are just set to utilize your past experiences for the best and the rest of your life. However, there are many things to know and avoid at that age. It’s definitely not an age to fool or play around with life. Happy reading!
1. Negative people
Maybe all through your twenties, you are used to living your life in an attempt to please the whole world, you want to appear to the whole world as a good person. Here’s what you need to know, YOU CAN’T PLEASE THE WHOLE WORLD! It is important at this point to avoid and dispose, as much as possible, people with negative vibes. When you are sure that they aren’t gonna help you become a better person, please DISPOSE!
2. Wasteful spending
For both men and women, it is necessary to spend wisely. There are things that are regarded as “wants” while other are regarded as “needs”. It is imperative to dwell and focus on needs than wants.
3. Impressing people
Sometimes, people spend the most of their resources trying to impress people who do not care about them. Most importantly, most of the people you try to impress, especially in dressing and in purchasing resources, are also very busy trying to make good use of their own resources. Do not waste your own resources impressing people. Live your life, just be alive, live well!
4. Know what you want in life
If you have wandered all through your twenties a nonentity, 30 is not an age to approach with uncertainty. In your life, know exactly what you want. Maybe you have been trying lots of things, maybe you have lived life with trials and errors, well, this is a good time to choose one thing and focus on it.
5. Know what you want from every relationship
There are lots of young people who are in different relationships and cannot specifically define such relationships well enough to tell what such relationships are bringing to them. It is worthless to fill up your life with many relationships and not know what exactly you are doing them. Define every relationship, know exactly what it is meant to bring to you, Don’t date somebody to pass time or just for the fun or idea of being in a relationship. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. Do not be caught up in that web of asking somebody “what exactly are we?” Hello??? before a relationship starts, define it! Let it be headed somewhere. If it’s business, define it. If it’s erotic, define it. if it’s emotional/marital, make sure it is defined.
6. Have more than one source of income
Maybe you have had a white-collar job all your life. It’s time to get better. You know. life doesn’t just get better, life gets tougher but the tough gets going. It is very important to have an additional source of income before or at 30. Life’s gotta step up
7. Master your emotions
Have you ever had the disgusting experience of watching an adult “mis-express” feelings in the most appalling way? it’s outrightly undescribable. you don’t wanna throw yourself around everyone in an attempt to make them understand how you feel. Master your emotions. Avoid emotional outbursts in public.
8. Save, save and save more money
So many young people have found this one of the most difficult things to do. it is very important to save. Imagine those things you bought when you least needed them; all of that money can sum up to something big to help out in the day of need.
9. Find that “friend” that’s for you
It’s funny about friendship. When you’re younger everyone is your friend. As you get older, however, you realize you only really need a handful of friends. And, that most important friend is your bestie. You know. The person who knows everything about you and is still friends with you. Find a quality friend whom you enjoy and remember that friendships require effort. Put the time in so you have this important stabilizer in your life.
10. Do something you enjoy
Life is not all about making money. There are things you should want to do, not for money but for charity and for fun. Touch a life. Go out of your way to make someone happy. Just do something that brings you pleasure. Something fulfilling. It could seem way too small to you but it could make someone’s day.
11. Don’t be afraid of failure
There’s no better way to learn, grow and drive yourself to succeed in the future than to fail. Fail fast and ensure that you do not leave yourself in the mess of your failure. Fail and fall as many times as possible, but when you get up, learn something. Also know that it is much easier to fail before 30 than after.
12. Travel by yourself
This may sound frightening. But traveling by yourself will push you to get out of your shell, help you discover who you really are and have experiences that you probably wouldn’t have had if you traveled with someone else. It will also give you valuable thinking time.
13. Live a debt-free life
No matter how pressing the need is, it is necessary to know that life is possible and better without debts. You don’t wanna be subjected to lots of embarrassments at 30 all in connection to the debts you owe years before.
14. Wherever you go, leave a good impression
it doesn’t matter if the person who first sees you is not the person you expect to see. Make a good impression wherever you go.
15. It’s your life, do whatever you want with it
There are step by step ways to accomplish any goal. If it has been accomplished by someone else, all you have to do is choose your virtual mentor and follow in his or her footsteps. If you are doing something that has not been done before, it is more challenging but your path can be mapped out if you take note of the things that have worked for you and those that have not. Do the things that work and pitch the ones that don’t.
16. If you want to be successful, you should hang out with successful people.
Your own thoughts, ideas and considerations about things shape your future. We live our ideas. For example, if you have an idea that it is noble to be poor, you will live your life in such a way as to remain poor. If this idea is sunk into your subconscious, you don’t even know you are acting it out in life. A good exercise, when things are not going well in life, is to sit down and write out all of your thoughts and considerations about the thing you are having trouble with. Get rid of the ones that hold you back.
17. You are responsible for every action you take in life and every condition your life is in.
This sounds harsh and I had a hard time with that until I asked myself, “Who is the most motivated person to see that my life works out the way I want it to?” The answer is ME. So the next question is, “Who is really going to take responsibility to ensure that my life works out the way I want it to?” Again, there is only one answer. Yes, your mom and your wife and everyone who cares about you want your life to work out but you are responsible for everything that happens to you, even if the decisions were not taken by you, the fact that you made them happen to you makes you responsible.
18. School doesn’t work for everyone.
Especially in this day and age. School gives you information. You shouldn’t assume that the only way to success is to be schooled. There are many people who have made it in life without being schooled in anything at all.
19. Don’t be stereotype in thinking
Do not be so rigid in your thinking that you fail to admit other ways of doing things in life. There are many ways through which things can be done. When and where necessary, let go of your own ways and thoughts and be open to learning new things and ideas. Permit your mind to go wild as much as possible. It’s free, not to be paid for. Do not starve your mind!
20. Truth and integrity are your most valuable assets
You see what you see and deep down, you know the truth about things. Don’t divert from your course because someone else doesn’t like it. Don’t agree with someone just to keep the peace. Any peace you can get on this planet is bought through strength and integrity. It is maintained through the idea that you do not stand for lies and bad ethics. Integrity and truth are the seat of your power. If you let these things go, you have nothing.
21. Vengeance is futile. Drop that attempt!
Revenge for the sake of revenge never feels good when it is carried out and, believe it or not, it ties you to the person that you have taken revenge against. You will never be free of that person in your thoughts and mind thereafter. Sometimes you do have to act against a person to stop the damage they are wreaking on others. This is a correct action in the grand scheme of things. But revenge just for revenge’s sake is evil. I don’t care how many movies make it seem okay.
22. You matter more to your kids than to anyone else
If you lose a friend or a lover, you can find another one even if you are devastated. Your child can never find another mom or dad. They adore you from the moment they are born and look up to you. Do not take this lightly. Care for them and do not take unnecessary risks with your life. They cannot replace you.